Question by RFP: Is this stalking? I have been told it isn’t.?
Ok so this is just a short description of the basics but is this stalking?
- Person has been on only a few informal dates/meetings with you.
- Have not had an intimate relationship with this person involving sexual acts
- This person has made creepy references to your body parts and has obsessively referred to them in conversation, whilst masturbating or telling you about it.
- You have tried to cease contact after awhile in a polite way or limit contact to a friendly manner, but person did not perceive it that way.
- After ceasing contact person returned and continued to ask for dates/meetings. After refusing politely or being friendly. Person still did not understand an understood it to be encouagement and asked again to meet up with you. you said no once more.
- Person think YOU are pursuing them. That you like them and are just playing coy.
- Person asks what seems normal quesitons like “are you going to class right now, are you driving home, ” yet when asked similar questions stays quiet.
- Works on the campus where person he pursues attends as a computer specialist but will not tell victim where on campus that is.
- The victim of this pursuit (e.g. in this case me) feels somewhat uneasy about ignoring this person because feels this may escalate to in person encounters.
- The person when they met victim in a class setting never once spoke to them or contacted them until 6 months letter via email provided through the class.
- person has googled victim and searched forums where they have posted items
- has mentioned a situation where they saw the person on campus walking and describe the situation that happened 8 mos earlier in detail including facial expressions, yet you do not remember seeing them nor did that person acknowledge you at the time.
- stops talking to victim in month or two month intervals, sometimes weeks, but always returns.
- victim has tried several hostile, polite methods, including threats to deter this person and they remain unwavered, joke it off, or regard it as “cutesy” of the victim.
- they continually mention or obsess over a particular quality of this victim “e.g. legs, athleticism, muscles, bodybuilding, exercise”
- has made explicit rude requests for sex, and has resorted to rudeness and also tried to appeal to sensitive sides to get my attention for a meet-up.
- Made a comment after first date that we had “known each other for a long time” just because we had shared a class together.
- this has been going on for over a year.
Thanks for the responses. in advance.
And if not stalking what is it? And how do i handle it?
Best answer:
Answer by Yes Man
Yes
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